It is way past February but there is nothing wrong if we talk about love. Love should be celebrated everyday but unfortunately, not all people know about the five love languages. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is written by Gary Chapman. It was published in 1995 and it sketches five ways to experience and express love. Chapman calls this “love languages”.
Chapman has been a marriage counsellor for decades and he is convinced that there are indeed five love languages. These languages are ways of a person to express love. It is important to know that every person has a major love language and we must study how to speak it if we want that particular person to feel loved.
All Singaporean should feel loved. Here are Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages:
- Words of affirmation: Never underestimate the power of appreciation – even small things deserve appreciation. Chapman said that praises and words of appreciation will bring nourishment on a parched soil. If you keep on raining it, it will bring new life to your marriage. If this is your spouse’s love language, you have to constantly say words of affirmation.
- Acts of service: Another love language is acts of service. It is not enough for others that you constantly tell them that you love them. Helping the other with simple things can be a love language. For example, helping clean the house or the dishes. No matter how you say you love them but failed to help, the relationship will suffer a brunt.
- Receiving gifts: Giving gifts has been seen as an expression of one’s love. You should understand that it is also a love language for others. Through receiving gifts, someone feels loved deeply. If this is your spouse’s primary love language, you need to give gifts during special occasions like birthdays, holidays and anniversaries. Your spouse will appreciate receiving gifts even if there are no special occasions.
- Quality time: Your spouse doesn’t need things but simply your undivided attention. Giving quality time is priceless and the best way to show your love. If your spouse’s love language is quality time, you have to plan something. For example, spending time watching television or simply listening to them can make a difference at the end of the day.
- Physical touch: Finally, if your spouse’s love language is physical touch, you have to consider it and know that it has an emotional power. Physical touch can be as simple as putting your hand on your spouse’s shoulder as you walk or holding hands to embracing and kissing. Remember that nothing converses love clearly than taking the initiative to reach and touch your spouse.
Furthermore, Chapman claims that the five love languages are exhausting. Remember that we should not use the love language that we like instead consider the love languages of our loved ones. Before anything else, it is important that we discover our love language by observing and analysing how others express their love.
Now that you know the five languages, it is time to consider it. Do not be exhausted and let the love flourish.