The early years is critical for your toddler’s development, as it is the time that they start to learn how the world around them works. Along with the new discoveries, they also learn a lot about different feelings and how to express them appropriately.
Throughout your child’s journey, things can get a little too overwhelming. As a result, they burst out and vent their feelings in such a way that gives you the most difficult time to calm them down. To minimize tantrums, help your child learn and understand their emotions better by keeping these important tips in mind.
- Give the feeling a name
The different feelings that your child goes through on a daily basis will be foreign to them at the beginning. Help them out by naming these feelings appropriately. When your child knows what feeling they are experiencing, they will eventually get to the point where they’re able to identify the feeling and talk to you about them. This will then help them learn to express their feelings in the right manner.
- Talk about how you express your emotions
The easiest and the best way for you to teach your toddler to express their feelings is to be a good example to them. Talk about the feelings you often experience and share how you express them. For example, you can say it like this: “Remember how mommy got mad yesterday because the house is cluttered? When mommy gets mad, I take a deep breath and think of ways to fix the problem.” The key is to make is to make it sound easy, so your child can understand and apply it on his own way.
- Provide a deep connection with your child
While babies are soothed, toddlers need to connect and bond with their parents to help them deal with their feelings. Thus, when you see your child getting overwhelmed or upset, reconnect with them and try to see the situation from your kid’s point of view. This will help you understand the reason of the meltdown and lets you respond to your kid’s reaction appropriately.
- Try not to punish
There’s nothing wrong with using discipline methods, but we want to make sure that we teach them how to deal with emotions. Unfortunately, spanking, giving consequences and timeouts doesn’t help your child to control their emotions. Instead of punishing them, help your child manage their feeling in positive ways, such as giving them activities that let them express what they feel, like shaping paly dough and drawing.
- Praise and practice
Praise your child whenever he shares to you his feelings. This gives the message that he is doing the right thing and that you are proud of him for reaching out to you.
Children should feel comfortable in expressing their emotions. The more your children knows how to properly express their feelings, the faster they’ll learn to regulate their emotions independently.