The world is in chaos but only few people strive for change. As parents, we want our children to be a part of a world free from chaos. We can begin by teaching them the basic thing – treating other people with respect and kindness. Hopefully with this, Singapore will be better and kinder.
We have to believe that we have an inner goodness and for our children, with the right guidance, they will inspire kindness around them. Before anything else, we should know the importance of helping others. Not all Singaporeans show kindness but we can look up to the Dalai Lama, Mother Theresa of Calcutta or even Martin Luther King Jr.
According to Dr. David Schonfeld of the Developmental and Behavioural Pediatrics at the Cincinnati Children’s Hospital, a child’s desire to help is innate. The bottom line is kids naturally want to help and as parents, we have to nurture their natural inclination (to help) so it can become a lifelong habit. Here are some techniques to inspire kindness:
- Exercise kindness as a team: As parents, we have to be a good role model. We can show kindness in little things like visiting a sick relative and baking casseroles. We have to get our kinds involved in these activities. When our kids see how helping brightens the days of other people, they will realize how god it feels.
- Sharing: We teach our kids sharing so they will not grow selfish. Our kids should realize that sharing is a good habit. We can encourage sharing first within family members like their sisters or brothers before making it large scale.
- Teach respect: Our kids cannot give kindness if they do not understand respect. If they respect someone, kindness will come instantaneously. We can teach them to respect their elders or the earth in general.
- Perform random acts of kindness: Whether we know a person or not, random acts of kindness makes a difference at the end of the day. No matter how small the act is, there will always be someone who will appreciate it. Our kids will want to follow our footsteps especially if they know that many people say good things about us.
- “Do unto others”: If we want to inspire kindness, we have to teach our kids the golden rule – do unto others. Our kids should understand that what we do to others, they will do to us. If we are kind to them, they will be kind to us too but if we are cruel to them, they will do the same.
Being kind is not easy here in Singapore but if we are serious about it, it will be done.